Being Mrs Eliot Spitzer

It must be really torturous to be Mrs. Eliot Spitzer right about now, how horrifying and humiliating to find that your husband has been cheating on you with a prostitute. I watched the Eliot Spitzer news conference yesterday, he had Mrs Spitzer standing by his side. You could tell that Mrs Spitzer had been emotionally destroyed, her eyes were clearly swollen and puffy from crying. I feel really bad for her but what kind of message are women like Mrs. Spitzer, Hillary Clinton and other's, sending to all the other married women out there who find out their husbands are low life scum?

Its all well and good to stand by your man but geez have women lost all their dignity? From the prostitute that Spitzer slept with to Monica Lewinsky, Hillary Clinton and Mrs Spitzer, their behavior is setting women back a hundred years. Giving men sex for money and standing by your husband while he sleep's around reduces women to second class citizens, again.

I feel that people like Eliot Spitzer, Bill Clinton and all the other politicians that have fallen from grace, should have been chastised by their wives in public. Maybe a good public slap across the face will discourage men from treating women like dirty dish rags.

The public behavior of the humiliated politicians wives needs to reflect to the ground that we have gained as women over the years, we do not need to revert back to this way of thinking:

HOW TO BE A GOOD WIFE

Home Economics High School Text Book, 1954

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad he is home.

Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.